You are the creator of your life & every aspect of it is influenced by your relationship with yourself

To truly understand who you are, you must investigate what you have lived through, what shaped you, how it affected you, and why your brain chose to be influenced in that way.

If we understand how it shaped you we can connect the dots on how and why you function and think the way you do today.

We can rewire your brain to see, think, and function in a more kind, helpful, and healthy way. 

Take back your power so that your past doesn't influence your present and impact on your future.

I grew up feeling alone and unlovable, and I knew that following the traditional therapy path by sitting in a silent room with another person was not the solution for me. I’ve tried it many times over the years during my states of desperation but instead of healing, I found this approach caused me even more pain and rejection due to the lack of true interaction from the other human within the room.

The truth is, when you’re raised not to be heard or treated fairly, it’s impossible to know how to navigate the space effectively to heal. Instead we shut down, hide away and feeling the pain of your past but unsure if it is safe to share it because safety is created in connection with the person you are sharing the same with.

You deserve a caring, supportive, human connection with someone who has the skillset, but also lived experience.  

Someone who can share empathy & true understanding.

Someone who can show & teach you what healthy interaction & connection looks & feels like.

I myself have experienced struggles and hardships.

I grew up as the child of an alcoholic, feeling unaccepted for who I was and wondering what made me so unloveable.
I live with multiple chronic illnesses (diabetes, depression, anxiety, CPTSD, and chronic fatigue syndrome), each coming at a time when I felt I was just catching up on where I thought I was meant to be in life, only to be forced to stop, hurt, and fear falling behind again. Which would lead to me pushing myself too hard too soon to get back to creating the life I felt I was meant to have built by now.

The last illness made me realise that I had to truly stop all the running, all the trying to catch up, and all the trying to be "normal". 

I needed to be honest with myself about how I wanted to live and how my personality & illnesses needed me to live so that both could be indulged & cared for. 

I invested in a therapist who was willing to work with me in the way I needed: human connection, deep conversations, mutual sharing, and the most inspiring philosophical chats about topics I had never before felt i had a space to explore and debate. to share opinions and to see another’s viewpoint all without fallout or judgement.

Knowing what i needed, voicing those needs and feeling the benefit of that open, safe human connect has not only been a life changing experience for my hurt and healing but has confirmed that this is how i want to work with my clients. I want to offer them this powerful and empowered way of healing and expanding.

When things come up in life, I go to him and ask his opinion. Not to take what he thinks and say’s as “right” but to hear a different point of view from the one I grew up with.

I wanted to overwrite the voices that lived in my head, the ones I was raised with, to feel less and stay small so as not to challenge them or the environment they provided me. I have consciously chosen a therapist, a business coach, and some like-minded friends to take up that space in my head instead. Healthier people whom I trust morally and whose views of life and the world align with my wants and true beliefs.

The freedom and happiness you feel when you are heard, understood and cared for is inner world changing.

My lived experience and the deep work I have done for myself have made me abundant in understanding, empathy, openness, kindness, and non-judgement.

My skillset means I have what is needed to guide and support you on your journey to feeling better, to living more freely, and to knowing and liking yourself fearlessly and abundantly.

I offer a safe space where you can share all of yourself, all of your journey so far, and give voice to all that you need and secretly want.

It's time for you to be free, to fully bloom into the exquisite, unique human that you are.

Together, we will clear out the debris from the storms that you have lived through.

Together we will focus on giving space to your pain and healing your relationship with yourself to grow and thrive. You’ll learn how to take up space inside yourself, to hear your voice, hear your truth and most importantly create a nurturing life that honours your individuality. You’ll live a life full of joy, meaning and purpose by becoming your safest, most supportive and most love-filled space in this world.

Everything you need is within you, it’s time to reconnect back to it.

Solas xx